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Tips for Caring for a Child with Severe Behaviour Issues

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There are many reasons for a child’s behaviour to be classified as “severe”. It could be due to anxiety, autism spectrum disorder, or another disability. Regardless of the reason behind their behaviour, it is important that parents know how to care for them well. In this blog post, we will discuss different strategies that can help you care for your child with severe behavioural issues and provide tips on managing their behaviours in everyday life!



Schedule time to spend one-on-one with your child.


In the middle of a busy work day, it can be easy to forget about playing with your child or giving them one-on-one time. However, spending time with your child is important for their mental and physical health. You should make an effort to schedule this time in your day.

Parents often find that they have the best luck getting their child’s full attention during meals or bath time, but this is not always the best option. You might also want to try and find a time that will work well with your child’s schedule, for example, if they have a play date or an after-school activity.

If you can’t find time during the day for one-on-one time, try planning for it in the evenings or weekends.


Create a positive home environment.


In order to make a positive home environment, remove all negative influences from your child’s life. This includes limiting their exposure to television and other media that contain negative content and encouraging them to spend more time in nature.

You should also remember to reward positive behaviour. You can do this by giving your child stickers or using other types of rewards that are age appropriate. Remember, you want your home environment to be a place where not only is it pleasant for the rest of the family but also promotes good behaviours in your child!


Provide consistent routines and boundaries.


Children with severe behaviour issues require lots of structure and consistency. It’s important to set rules about the way they should behave, as well as what will happen if those rules are broken. This helps children learn how to control their own behaviours so that discipline isn’t necessary in all situations.

Be firm, but fair.

It’s important to let children know what you expect of them and how they should behave – while also making sure that the rules are reasonable. For example, if your child can’t sit still during dinner or complete their homework in one sitting, don’t try to force him/her into doing these things. Instead, look for solutions that might work better in these situations.

When children with severe behavioural issues are able to control their behaviours and follow family rules, they should be rewarded! If you have a small child at home who’s not old enough to understand verbal praise, then try giving him/her a token for each positive behaviour.



Teach empathy through modeling behaviours you want to see in your child.


When you spot an emotion in another person, share what makes your child feel the same way. For example, when a friend gets passed over for promotion at work, “I know how you feel. When I didn’t get a raise last year, I felt the same way too!” This can help your child understand that everyone feels the same way at times.

When your child is feeling angry, frustrated or irritated with a sibling , model strategies for calming down and being less aggressive in the moment.

For example, you could say “You seem really mad right now. You’re probably feeling like hitting little Jimmy. I understand how you feel. I sometimes want to hit my stuffed animal when I’m mad, too! Let’s both count together to ten to calm down.”

Help your child understand why people behave the way they do when in distress or feeling upset, keeping their feelings in mind.

It can be helpful to explain, “She’s crying because she feels sad and is trying to tell everyone that she needs help.” This way, your child will know to offer her classmates some attention when they are upset or crying over something like losing a game.


Be patient, loving, and understanding when disciplining your child.


Of course, your child’s behaviour is not acceptable. But it’s also important to acknowledge that he/she might have had a bad day at school or an argument with another peer before you start disciplining him/her.

Make sure that any time of discipline is kept short and calm so as not to exacerbate the situation further.

If your child is acting out or being aggressive, then it’s best to remove him/her from the situation until he/she can calm down. Once this happens, you should go over what happened with your child and let him/her know that these types of behaviours are not acceptable in most social situations.

Overall, it is important to remember that no child or family member should be left struggling with their behaviours alone. There are many ways you can help your children and yourself cope with severe behavioural issues- these strategies will hopefully give you a good start! We hope this blog post has provided some useful information for parents looking for tips on how to care for their kids who have very difficult behaviour patterns. If not, don’t worry; we’re always here to provide more resources and support as well as answer any questions.